How to Lounge…Lesson 2

Lounge Tip #2: Take 10 minutes today to treat your feet!

A 10 minute foot soak provides healing benefits for the whole body, by soothing tired swollen feet and increasing the body’s circulation. You can make your own foot soak at home store it in an airtight container and use when needed.

Homemade foot soak Recipe 1:

1 part Epsom Salt

1 part Baking soda

a few drops of your favorite essential oil (lavender, jasmine, peppermint, lemon, orange, mint)

*Use 2-3 tbs per gallon of warm water. If your feet are swollen then use cool water.

Recipe 2:

1 c lemon juice

3 tbs olive oil

1/4 c milk

*Mix well then add to 1 gallon of water and soak feet.

To really treat your feet add a few flower petals to your soak for extra luxuriousness. 🙂


Homemade Sugar Scrub:

1 clear plastic jar

1 c sugar

1/2 c grapeseed oil or olive oil

few drops of essential oil

Mix all together and enjoy!

*Once you put the kids down, take some time to your self and try our recommended momtea or momtini*


1 3/4 oz. vodka

1 oz sweet iced tea

1/4 oz. lemon juice

lemon wedge for garnish

Pour all ingredients into a shaker with ice cubes. Shake well and strain into a sugar rimmed glass. Yum! To make this a Momtea just replace the vodka with sparkling water to make this drink nice and refreshing. Enjoy!

Remember just taking a few moments to yourself will leave you refreshed, rejuvenated and a better Mommy and Lover.

How to cure the “Frump Syndrome”

We are both reading the book “The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands” by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. She talks about the “Frump Syndrome” that we fall into after marriage and especially after children. Dr. Laura lists the symptoms as “wearing flannel pajamas and socks, or sweatpants with oversized T-shirts, to bed instead of some girly thing with lace; not shaving legs or grooming nails; not washing, styling, or even combing hair; taking off (instead of freshening up) makeup from the day just before your husband comes home; using the toilet with him in the room; not making an attempt to smell sweet; and never putting on sexy outfits…in front of your husband.”

Both Reneca and I have fallen into the “Frump Syndrome”, but just taking a little extra effort on our parts has helped to start to cure our “syndrome.” Dr. Laura says that “looking womanly and behaving sweetly and flirtatiously are gifts wives give to their husbands. This gifts communicates to the husband that his is seen as a man and not just a fix-it guy, bread winner or sperm donor.” Men are easy and if we want them to help around the house or be under our control, then be the “girl” that he fell in love with.

Raising kids, taking care of the house, running errands and driving carpools are all time consuming, but taking a few extra minutes in the morning and night can help you to come out of the frumpiness and be the woman you were before kids.

In the morning:

5 minute face; that should be all it takes to look fresh and natural. We still want to be beautiful, but not like a night walker 🙂 This is what we do…

  • Wash face and brush teeth
  • Apply tinted moisturizer or foundation, lip gloss and mascara
  • Spritz a little body spray or light perfume

That’s it–you are ready for the day. Just don’t forget the other essentials like lotion and deodorant 🙂

Now before your husband comes home for the day try to freshen up Touch up your face, more lip gloss and a little sweet smelling spray. Also, change into a spit up and booger free shirt. Just doing this will help you as well as please your husband. Dr. Laura quotes one man saying that “guys have a natural and deep desire to be with a woman who cares enough about herself to look good for her mate.” When we look good–we feel good, no matter what anyone wants to say.

Before bed (usually after the kids are put to bed) take a shower and put on something, not frumpy, that your husband enjoys seeing you in. Guys like different things, so maybe ask him if you don’t know anymore. Or just walk around in panties and a shirt. Just taking the extra effort even if you are exhausted will have big payoffs to your advantage. When they see you making an effort to look good for them they will be more willing to do things to make you happy.

As we grow in our Motherhood we have to keep in mind that we were lovers first and to not forget about the needs of our spouses. Have a great weekend and feel free to comment or ask us questions. We also love this book so go and check it out from the library or buy your own!

Kalisha and Reneca

They’re only little once

Yesterday was a very trying day for me.  There really must have been something in the water, because all three kids (Kaleah, Kiara, and Nia) were acting crazy.  For some reason none of them wanted to listen.  In fact, I even got a few NO’s.  As they tried my patience time and again I began to loose sight of what is truly important…  I love them!

I found myself getting frustrated and annoyed at them rather than being patient and understanding.  Later that evening I had a thought, ‘What if there was no tomorrow?’  Wow-if there was no tomorrow, that is pretty intense.  Would I be happy with how I lived today?  Unfortunately my answer was no.  We often loose sight on the fact we are not guaranteed tomorrow; and do things today with the assumption that tomorrow will come.   For me I let my emotions get the best of me and was not fully present in every moment.   

I found this prayer for parents about their young children.  It reminds us all to appriciate every momment with them, and realize that they are only little once.        

A Parents’ Prayer

They’re only little once.

Grant me the wisdom to guide them down the path that their feet should take.

For I know that they can never turn back and walk those paths with me again.

Give me the wisdom to guide their feet
so that someday they’ll be able to walk alone.

They’re only little once.

Give me the time I need to enjoy them.

For I know that after they’re grown, I’ll never have another chance

to tell stories and pretend at those tea parties.

I’ll never have another chance

to watch them in a school play or sing in church, or to see them catch that first fish or score that first goal or hit that first home run ball.

Give me the time in life’s busy schedule
to have fun with my children.

They’re only little once.

Let me be a loving parent.

Let me correct and not just punish, explain and not merely scold.

Let me know when to correct, and how often, and when it’s best to just look the other way.

Help me be patient and give me a gentle hand to mould them into better people.

They’re only little once.

Let me be a good teacher and an even better example.

Give me the right words and deeds to teach them.

Help me to teach them about You and how to walk in Your ways

so that when they are old they will not depart from Your ways.

For they’re only little one time,

only innocent and trusting and pliable for a space of time, one minute in an eternity.

Let me do my best for them while I have the chance.


~~ Author Unknown ~~     

Remember to be present in every moment.  Much love, Reneca        

Name Alphabet Book

e thought of this idea because our kids are at that age when they should learn their names and begin to identify the letters in thier names. It’s something fun and educational to do together! We will post some pics of ours by the end of the day (it is way past that day and we still don’t have a picture because we haven’t had the chance to do it. Which is not an excuse. It has to get done or my kids will never get into preschool! I’ll use the famous line of my daughter Journey, “Just jokin’!”) . We would love to see your books too! Feel free to leave them in our comment section.

What you need:

  • thick paper, cardstock, cardboard, etc.
  • crayongs, markers
  • construction paper
  • glue
  • sciccors and kid safety sciccors
  • tape
  • yarn or string
  • whole punch
  • camera
  • old magazines

Let’s Play!:

  • Determine how big you want your book to be and then cut out your paper/cardboard all the same size
  • Using crayons and markers draw the letters on one side of the paper. You should have one letter per page for each letter in their name.
  • Or you can cut out the letters from the construction paper and glue them to the pages
  • Now you can start finding pictures or taking pictures of things that correspond with each letter. It is cute to use your childs picture as the first letter in their book.
  • Once you have all your pictures glue or tape them to the back of the letter page. Do this for all.
  • Punch holes into the “binding” of your book and thread yarn through to hold it together. Enjoy your book!

By the ages:

Under 1

  • You make the book for your baby. You and your baby enjoy together!


  • You make the book for your toddler. Read to them; using open ended questions and guiding them to recognize the letters and pictures.
  • Can decorate their letter page with crayons.


  • Decorate their letter page.
  • Help pick out the pictures that go with their letters
  • Help glue letters and pictures to the pages
  • With help use safety scissors to cut out pictures


  • Write or trace the letters and decorate by themselves
  • Cut out pictures and glue them to the pages
  • With help tie knots to put book together
  • You could include short sentences describing the pictures.
  • Have your child recognize the letter and the phonics of that letter.
  • Have them read their book to you.

Dance like no one is watching!

Yesterday after Journey woke up from her nap I turned on the R&B Hits on the cable station. It played I guess what we would call now “old school” , but really the jams I would listen to like 10 years ago. I was singing along and dancing and Journey and Faith loved it. I realized how happy the nostalgia of the music made me. Faith “danced”; she bounces, and moves her arms, and sometimes twirls in a circle! We had a good time shakin our booties.

The reason why this had such an impact on me is because I have hard days with the girls; crying and whining had made me a little grumpy at times. So, getting this long weekend to just relax and enjoy ourselves helped a lot. Putting on some music and letting go and being present with my family was fun.

“Work like you don’t need money,
Love like you’ve never been hurt,
And dance like no one’s watching.”

I was looking up the quote that went with my title and I found this webpage that just spoke to me, so I wanted to share it with you. This is so real and touched me so much. I have been reading the Power of Now (still not finished), but this really sums up the book and the idea to me. It is what I want to be every moment. This is what I’m working on this week; to be in the moment and present with all I come in contact with, to let loose and enjoy life, to be spontaneous because this is my only life, to tell anyone that I love–that I love them and to work hard now on my business ventures. That is the only way to true happiness in our lives and ourselves. Yesterday is history…tomorrow is a mystery…today is a Gift that is why we call it the Present. Have a good week! Love, Kalisha

We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another.

Then we are frustrated that the kids aren’t old enough
and we’ll be more content when they are.

After that we’re frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage.

We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice vacation, when we retire.

The truth is, there’s no better time to be happy than right now.

If not now … when?

Your life will always be filled with challenges. It’s best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway.

One of my favorite quotes comes from Alfred D Souza …

“For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin.
But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.”

This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.

So, treasure every moment that you have. And treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time … and remember that time waits for no one …

So stop waiting until you finish school … until you go back to school … until you lose ten pounds … until you gain ten pounds … until you have kids … until your kids leave the house … until you start work … until you retire … until you get married … until you get divorced … until Friday night … until Sunday morning … until you get a new car or home … until your car or home is paid off … until spring, until summer … until fall … until winter … until you are off welfare … until the first or fifteenth … until your song comes on … until you’ve had a drink … until you’ve sobered up … until you die … until you are born again to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy …








Happy Memorial Day!

Memorial dayHappy Memorial Day!!  Memorial day is they day we set aside to remember all of the fallen service men and women in the military.  There is a national moment of remembrance at 3pm eastern standard time.  So take time to remember those who died for our freedom.



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