Can I Borrow An Arm?

Picture this…Its lunch time and your 2 year old spills an entire bowl of fried rice all over the carpet. You tell yourself ‘be patient, just go vacuum it up’. You pull out the vacuum, then your 7 month old starts crying wanting you to pick him up; so you do.  As you’re vacuuming the million pieces of rice, peas, green beans and carrots, your 4 year old spills her strawberry milk all over the carpet.  ‘AHHHHH!’  I’m sure all moms have had this or something very similar happen to them.  But what do we do when we don’t have enough arms and our patience has flown out of the window? 


Here are some help tips that will help keep you from exploding.


1.   The First thing you need to do is breathe.  Inhale deeply through your nose counting 1-2-3 and exhale. Repeat this 2-3 times.

2.   Reflect on a positive moment that has occurred during the day. Maybe your toddler just said ‘thank you’ for the first time or has been doing great at potty training.  Whatever it maybe, take a minute to step out of the stressful situation and enter into a positive place.

3.   Now that you are in a peaceful mood, remember that accidents happen and it’s not the end of the world.  Asses the situation and do what ever you need to change it (i.e. clean up the spill).

4.    Lastly, laugh (even if it’s to yourself).  Accidents are an inevitable part of motherhood, and they often happen in multiples.


Of course this all easier said than done. When you’re caught in the moment it is often hard to step out of the situation for a second to breathe. Remember to take time for yourself on a daily biases. This will help alleviate some of the stress that can accumulate.  Something you can try (it has helped my stress levels) is take 15 minutes at the end of the day after you have put the kids to bed to meditate.  Do this before you get to the rest of chores, so you are still alert and awake. (I find if I do it after I’ve finished cleaning up for the day I’m too tired and I’ll just fall asleep). Let go of everything negative that may have happened throughout the day and acknowledge everything that went well. For part of this time try not to think of anything, just be in the moment. Instead concentrate on breathing. Now you can get back to the rest of your chores. 


*Remember life is not perfect and if we focus too much on the negative we won’t be living for each moment; you have the most important job as a mother! 🙂 *


Much love, Reneca


“No one ever died from sleeping in an unmade bed. I have known mothers who remake the bed after their children do it because there’s a wrinkle in the spread or the blanket is on crooked. This is sick.” -Erma Bombeck  


“Motherhood is the greatest potential influence in human society. Her caress first awakens in the child a sense of security; her kiss the first realization of affection; her sympathy and tenderness, the first assurance that there is love in the world. Thus in infancy and childhood she implants ever-directing and restraining influences that remain through life.” -David 0. McKay










One Response

  1. Excellent post! I really needed this. I’m having EXACTLY that kind of day!

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