Change…

Being kid-free this weekend really helped me to get a jump start and a change in attitude. I was talking to a long time friend of mine and she helped me to realize that I am the Mother, the back bone of the family. If I want to see change then I have to be the one leading it. For too long I have just been ok with the way things have gone. I have not been myself. For whatever reason I had become kind of stuck. Not setting my goals anymore, not being the go-getter person that I used to be (before kids). I don’t want things to stay the same anymore. I have devoted my whole life to my two girls, nurturing them and caring for them 24/7 for the past 2 1/2 years. But I haven’t given them all of me. I know you’re thinking how much more could you give your child. I feel like I was short-changing myself and so from that–not giving them all I really have.

I gave myself a new attitude this weekend. I promised Brett that I would help him and be even more patient so that he can focus on himself and his goals. I have to take control of my family, no one else will. We have to move forward together towards the life that we want for us and our girls. I have made a daily schedule for myself that includes time for me (yoga in the morning), for my girls (always they get all the time!), for Brett (nightly foot rub because he says my hands are magic and make his pain go away whenever I touch him) and for Sterling because he has gotten a little lost in all of this too. So far, two days into it I’ve done very well. My house is clean (yea!) and I feel like I am making progress. 

I really got a lift from hearing this Alicia Keys song, Superwoman. I actually started crying because it just touched me so deeply. As a woman, mother, lover, daughter, everything–I am ultimately Superwoman. Not saying I can do everything without the help of a man or loved ones, but that I am a strong woman. Made from a long line of very strong women; my mother, grandmother and all the mothers before her.

I always prided myself in being a self-reliant woman before I had kids. I played football in college, I wasn’t a prissy-I-need-a-man-to-change-my-tire-kind-of-girl. I could do things for myself. Even though I was a strong woman before now I believe the only way to become a Superwoman is to give more and think less of yourself. When I became a mother that is exactly what happened. This song touched me because the pressure can be so great, but no matter what we can persevere and survive.

I have been telling Reneca lately that sometimes we get stuck in such a rut that we don’t give ourselves enough credit for the talents we have. We joke around with the phrase, “I am woman. Hear me roar!” It’s funny, but has a lot of truth. We need to have that confidence and the attitude that we are strong. I have begun to find my confidence in myself and my talents. I have to adjust my attitude and be the Kalisha that I have known for so long, but has seemed to have gotten lost.

My goal is to only look forward, be confident, be aggressive for the things that I want, continue to give motherhood 100%, give Brett 100% and to just be the Superwoman that I know I am.

We all have to embrace that. Mothers need more support from each other because we are all dealing with the same situations. We all want the best for our families and ourselves. We are woman! Hear us roar!

Below is the video, Superwoman. Listen to it this morning and I hope that you have a great week! Let me know your thoughts on being a Superwoman and a Mother!

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Also! I’m entering in the “Sleeping Angel” Photo Contest

Here is a pic of Journey and Faith “sleeping” outside on our patio one late afternoon…They look so cute! But they would look cuter if they were sleeping in the Lily Rose Bedroom set that 5minformom is giving away!

Start your day off right!

Well, I’m feeling a nice fresh start from the great weekend that I had. Journey and Faith came back from their weekend with Brett’s family on Sunday late afternoon. I had two mornings to sleep in (until 9am) and two nights to stay up and party late (I crashed around 10pm)! I got a lot of cleaning done and I did sit down from time to time and watch TV and relax. I missed my girls very much, but this weekend also gave Brett and I a chance to reconnect, talk and hang out. We actually went to the movie theater and saw a movie on Saturday night. The movie, Lakeview Terrace, was alright…not as good as the previews. The movie theater much like I remembered it…, expensive, and dang-it if only those chairs reclined!

All day Sunday we relaxed around the house; I got up early because I wanted to clean and get the house in order before the girls came back. While I was cleaning out my cookbooks I realized that some of them I haven’t even looked through! Mostly because most of the cookbooks in our cabinet are Brett’s. There was one that has always caught my attention but this time I pulled it out. It is called, “Where’s Mom Now That I Need Her?” It is a surviving away from home book with lots of simple recipes and advice on how to stock your pantry, store food and even a first aid section. Well, I decided to try one of the recipes and I chose the breakfast cookie recipe. It seemed a little weird to me in writing but I decided to try it. I thought it would be a fun treat for the girls to have in the morning because they are “cookies”, but made with oatmeal, cheese and bacon! I baked them and they were really goo! I couldn’t believe it. Everyone else loved them too. I have to admit that the recipe sounds a little strange, but try it and let us know what you think!

So, I will share the recipe with you:

Breakfast Cookies

  • 1/3 c. butter or margarine
  • 1/2 c. granulated sugar
  • 1 egg, beaten
  • 1/2 t. vanilla
  • 1/2 c. flour
  • 1/4 t. baking soda
  • 1/4 t. salt
  • 1 1/2 c. quick cooking oatmeal
  • 1/2 c. cheese, grated
  • 5 slices of bacon crumbled

Cream butter, sugar, egg, and vanilla. Sift together flour, baking soda, salt; stir into creamed mixture. Beat in oatmeal, cheese, and crumbled bacon. Bake on greased cookie sheet at 350 degrees F for 7-10 minutes or until lightly browned. Enjoy!

Speechless Sunday

Kiara 3 months

Kiara 3 months

The Saggy Baggy Elephant

Here is the conversation I had with Kiara this morning (at 6am). 

“Good morning Kiara, what are you doing?”

“I’m reading.  Mommy, why is the Tiger sniffing the elephants booty?”

“He’s not, he’s just looking.”

“Oh, well why is he looking at his butt?”

LOL!!! Kids say the funniest things sometimes.  We need to make sure that we enjoy these times with them. Have a wonderful day!

Reneca and Kalisha

Happy BIRTH day!

We wanted to give a very big Happy BIRTH Day to a new baby boy! He was born to college friends of ours and we wanted to get them a special keepsake gift. We both brainstormed ideas for newborn baby gifts. As we thought we both recalled the gifts that we had been given and the gifts our moms treasured from our birth. I brought up that as a child I remember dusting my mom’s bookshelves and seeing the tiny little shoes she had kept of mine. A pair of my brothers tennis shoes and my custom leather baby shoessitting next to his. It has my name written in gold ink along with my birthday. I would love to look at those shoes over and over and be reminded how tiny I used to be.  Once I told Reneca this,  she fessed up to her mom having saved her baby booties, keeping them on her mantel too! Is this like an 80’s mom thing? I don’t know, but everyone doesn’t go around bragging about thier keepsake baby shoes, but it is kind of a good idea! Right?! Giving a new mom a unique personalized baby gift is way more memorable than the giving her the trendiest diaper bag.

Not only do new moms love customized baby gifts, but we know that Grandparents do too! Grandparents always love special gifts from their grandchildren. We usually give the Grandparents hand painted picture frames, clay pots, sticker pictures and “special” leaves and rocks we find on our walks. So, now that we remember the coolness of the personalized shoe we know exactly what they will get for Christmas. It doesn’t matter that our children can’t wear the shoes anymore, but it will be a reminder of their grandchildren as newborns and be a treasured keepsake that can be passed down.

By the way, did you know that Grandparents Day was last week?! I saw it on the calendar after the fact and I feel a little bad for not at least acknowledging the Grandparents formally. We are pretty sure that it is a Hallmark holiday anyway. To make up for it I had Journey and Faith draw and paint a bunch of pictures to give to them!

Well, even if it is a hallmark holiday it is still our choice to make it a tradition or not.  Since becoming mothers Reneca and I have began to realize how much of a role we have in starting and carrying out family traditions. Family traditions are important and creates a bond that will last forever. I’m sure we all have fond memories of certain family traditions that we want to continue in our families. Even if personalized baby shoes may seem a little outdated now I did have fond memories of them and that is what is most important. Creating those fond memories for people we love! How sweet!

Just out of curiousity…does anyone else have personalized baby shoes or booties from their childhood that were kept as keepsakes? Leave a comment and let us know!

Kalisha and Reneca

Cleanliness

Last week, I talked about living in wisdom.  ” A wise woman knows happiness is the reward for a life lived in harmony, with courage and grace. A wise woman knows how to summon her courage and do what is right, rather than what is easy.”  A wise woman also knows how to channel her frustrations into positives outcomes. Wow, that is definitely a statement that is easier said than done, but thats the point right?  I think as women we need to support each other, keeping each other accountable for their actions.  We have all been in situations and decided to take the easy path rather than digging down deep, with faith and courage, to do what we truly felt was right. How do you know it’s right?  You will know because your thoughts, feelings, words, and actions will be in harmony and you will have balance in your life.                                                                                       

I’m sure you have heard at some point in your life that, “Cleanliness is close to Godliness”.  Well, even if you don’t think that being clean will transcend you to another spiritual state, does play an important role in your financial state.

Quality 7: Cleanliness

Cleanliness is a state of purity, clarity, and precision.

Cleanliness is about respecting the importance of order and organization. When you don’t know where your money is, when you have no filing system for your important documents, when you dive into your pocketbook to pull out crumpled bills, when your car looks like a garbage can, when your closets are filled with junk and clutter — you cannot possibly be a wealthy woman. You need to clean up your act — quite literally — to bring true wealth into your life. In India, women sweep the front entrance to their home each morning as a way of welcoming Lakshmi, the goddess of material and spiritual abundance, into their home, for there is a belief that she resides at the threshold of every house. In order for her to enter, she must have a clear path.

You might be reading this and thinking that cleanliness is nice but not essential to your financial well-being. I am here to tell you that if this quality is not up front and center, wealth will elude you and you will be left with the mess that you created. Respect the power of this quality of cleanliness. Tell the universe that you have cleared the path for wealth and abundance to enter.

Take time to do some organizing, and purge the clutter from you life.  Have a great day!

Much Love, Reneca

Letter G

Hope this finds you having a great day! Today is going to be devoted to the letter G. Here are some ideas on how to include G into your day:

  • Sing Songs like  G’s are Growing

(Sung To: ‘Ferec Jacques’)
G’s are Growing, G’s are Growing
On the Ground, all around
Growing grass, and Goosebumps
Growing grass and goosebumps
On the Ground all Around

HA! Am I the only one that thinks that is kind of a wierd song? Funny, though.

  • Play G Games!
  • Eat GOOD food!…Granola Bars, graham crackers, gingerbread cookies!
  • Use your imagination and have some fun with Grocery Store dramatic play.
  • To make your Letter G page; Draw the outline of the G on a piece of construction paper. Find pictures from magazines or draw goldfish, giraffes, or veggies from your garden.

Today our craft is Stuffed Gingerbread People

What you need:

  • Paper Grocery Bags (You can go to your local grocery store and ask for a few)
  • Plastic Grocery bags, cotton or fabric scraps
  • Yarn
  • Hole-punch or sharp knife
  • Paint, markers, crayons
  • Glue, scissors
  • And anything else to make your gingerbread man beautiful!

What to do:

  • Trace the shape of a gingerbread man on the paper sack. Or you can print the template to use as a guide, but make sure you make the gingerbread man big enough to have room to stuff it.
  • Now cut out the shape through both layers of the bag
  • Holding your two pieces of gingerbread man together hole punch along the edge of the shape.
  • Now you can use paper clips to hold the man in place. Make a thread of yarn and have your child thread the yarn throughout the gingerbread man leaving an opening to stuff him
  • Take your fabric scraps, cotton or plastic bags and stuff the gingerbread until he is slightly plump!
  • Now you can decorate your gingerbread man however you like! Have fun!

(A picture will be posted in a few hours!)