Anything is possible, be thankful! TT#3

Written by:  Reneca

I’m having one of those ” Oh S#!$” moments.  Scratch that…I am having one of those awwhhha moments!  Life has thrown our family a curve ball and now as we step up to the plate I am prepared to hit that damn ball out of the park.  Last friday Duan’sschool shut down.  I could easily go through the rest of this post ranting and raving about who’s fault it was, and who’s it wasn’t.  But honestly, what’s the point.  Everyone played a role, and I’m not a delusional wife who thinks her husband can do no wrong.  I do know if I were to stay in a place of blame, and negativity nothing positive would come of it. 

Buddha said,  “The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.”  As far as I’m concerned, there is nothing else to do.  When we stay in the moment our pasts fade away.  The uncertainty of tomorrow doesn’t exist.  Instead, an infinite assortment of possiblities arise.  This is not to suggest that planning is not essential.

Infact, Kalisha I will say time and time again when you fail to plan, you plan to fail.  Planning may be the most integral part of the equation.  It’s not however, what you plan, but how.  When you are planning, especially when it comes to major situations in your life, it should made when you are at peace.  You may not be happy with the situation but until you have gotten to the point of acceptance, the choices you make have the potential to be erratic, and based completely off of emotion.

The question that follows is: How do you get to a place emotionally and spiritually to make those planning decisions?  This question, of course has so many answers.  The answer differs from person to person.  Some people may need to pray prior to making their decisions, while other may need to meditate. It takes a lot of discipline to step out of the situation, and stay in the moment to purposefully make these choices.  (This includes when you are planning your day. ) This is what  I am putting into practice.   

With all that being said, I am staying focus only on the true blessings that are all around me.  Here are thirteen of the many things in my life that I am thankful for. (In no particular order)

  1. My Children:   They bring me so much joy!  I am constantly reminded of how blessed I am every time I see them.  It’s amazing to watch how they are growing physically, mentally and spiritually.   And they are so funny.  In an instant they can make me extremely upset, and at the same time hardly able to contain my laughter.
  2. My husband:  Isn’t it great to know you will be with your best friend forever?!!!!   He truly is my friend, my confidant, my inspiration.  Regardless of our material struggles, our relationship is built on such a strong foundation that nothing can shake it. 
  3. My best friend:  You are truly blessed when you have a friend which has become more like a sister.  Kalisha, has been there to support me without judgement.  What more can you ask for?
  4. My Family:   The continual support and encouragement  from my parents, brother, and Cousins. 
  5. My extended family: I have been welcomed and loved into the Ruff family. I really feel like I have have another brother, a sister, two more parents, and a slew of Aunts, Uncles and Cousins.  Not many people can can say this about their in-laws.
  6. My health:   I’m alive, breathing, and thriving, with no ailments.  When you step back and realize that some people can’t walk, talk or even breath by themselves, life in it self is a blessing.
  7. I’m grateful for living in a country where I have a voice.  There are so many woman throughout the world who cannot vote, who cannot drive, and in some instances cannot even speak. 
  8. I was watching a show the other night, and a woman’s parents had recently passed.  No matter how much we disagree, argue or fight, I am so glad my parents are still alive.
  9. Regardless of politics, partisinism, or beliefs, it’s incredible to be in this dispensation of time, when a black man can be elected President of the United States.  I know my generation cannot even fathom the enormity of this event, but it does show that with hard work and perseverance, anybody can be what they want to be. (No matter, what , ethnicity!)
  10. I am so glad that someone cared enough to teach me to read.  Okay, that may seem like a stretch, but there are so many children who are not given the same opportunity.  Think of the things you couldn’t do if you weren’t able to read!  I know one thing, you wouldn’t be reading this post!
  11. It is so wonderful to have the ability to start over.  At any moment we can decide to start anew.  We are not fixed to one outcome.  If we don’t like our situation, ultimately we have the power to change it. 
  12. I just bought $50 dollars of groceries for only $19!!!  Saving that kind of money is always something to be grateful for!
  13. You:  Okay so I don’t know many of you, but I am thankful you took the time come check out the crazy ramblings of my mind!  So, thanks!

I want to leave you with one more quote.

Behind me is infinite power,

before me is endless possibility.

Around me is boundless opportunity.

Why should I fear?

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Much Love,  Reneca




11 Responses

  1. I’m really sorry that you are faced with this challenge. I know how bad it sucks! I also am excited by your attitude on the situation. I was faced with a similar situation earlier this year. I came to the same conclusion that you have, that you have to live in the now. My own mother’s voice came back to me time and time again quoting John Lennon, “Be here now.” I always have struggled with this as I am a HUGE planner and day dreamer. I was kind of faced with a situation where I wasn’t able to concretely plan further than the next few days. It was either force myself to ‘be here now’ or else to be depressed. Focusing on blessings and on the plans that I could make also really helped me overcome that challenge.

    I know you will come out of this with flying colors. A new adventure will open up or even more than one. As hard as it is to face that, it’s kind of exciting too! A healthy attitude can take you far!

    Anyway, I just wanted to offer my moral support. I didn’t mean to write so much. 🙂 I hope you keep all us blog stalkers posted on your progress and adventure. We’re here to support you.


  2. Great list….always wonderful to be grateful. I loved your list. We are all blessed!

  3. with obama prez, i feel like anythign is possible!

    13 Amazing Reasons to Come to Costa Rica

  4. and I am thankful I can do corrections when I need too…

    “I am thankful for you too”

  5. What a wonderful list. There’s a lot to be grateful for. 🙂

  6. Your attitude was exactly what I needed tonight-you’re facing adversity with such grace. Thanks for reminding me where I should be focusing-all the things I should be thankful for.

  7. FANTASTIC List!! Isn’t it wonderful to remember to be thankful. I know it fills me with happiness.

    Thanks for sharing!

  8. I love your “spin” on a difficult situation. Being positive and staying “thankful” will get you through just about anything! Love your list and I applaud your reminder to us all that even in tough times, we can all work together to resolve our differences and issues.

  9. I love these TT about what people are thankful for. It makes you, the reader, reflect on the things that are you thankful for too. SO I’m thankful for your post:)

  10. I’m sorry Kalisha that it has taken me so long to get back to you – did you get a hold of Susan or Janice yet!?!

  11. Hope things are going better for you this week.

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