Lounge tip #16: Bake the stress away

Lounge tip # 16: Bake a way the stress

If your morning with anything like mine, you are looking for some way to help relieve some stress.   For me, baking can easily reduce the amount of stress I’m feeling.  How can it not when you add the sent of vanilla extract, allspice, cinnamon, nutmeg, chocolate. These aromas will take you back to the days you baked with your mom or grandma.  Baking a simple batch of chocolate chip cookies will have a positive effect on the rest of your family as well.  When your husband comes home to delicious fresh baked cookies, it will instantly transport him back to when he was a child coming in from playing to his mothers homemade cookies.  While you and your husband are going back to your own childhood, you are creating these memories for your kids.

Here is a basic chocolate chip cookie recipe.  There are so many variations.  You can change the chips and use a bag of M&Ms, add you favorite nuts for some extra flavor, or even change the color with food coloring for a different twist.


Healthy Chocolate Chip Cookie Recipe

  • 1 cup whole wheat flour
  • 1 cup oat flour *
  • 2 tsp. baking powder
  • 1/2 tsp. salt
  • 1/4 tsp. nutmeg
  • 1/4 tsp. cinnamon
  • 1/2 cup butter, softened
  • 3/4 cup brown sugar
  • 1 egg
  • 1/4 cup nonfat milk (or what ever milk you normally drink) 
  • 5 oz. Ghirardelli dark chocolate chips (or your favorite bittersweet chocolate chips)

Preheat oven to 350 degrees. In a medium bowl, stir together flours, baking powder, salt, nutmeg and cinnamon. In a large mixing bowl, cream the butter and sugar together until light and fluffy. Beat in the egg, then the milk. Stir in the flour mixture. Stir in the chocolate chips. Drop by rounded teaspoons onto cookie sheets. Bake 12-14 minutes or until browned around the edges.

Makes 36 cookies.

*You can use unbleached all purpose flour instead.

Per cookie: 88 calories, 4 g fat (2 g saturated), 14 mg cholesterol, 13 g carbohydrate, 1 g fiber, 1 g protein, 1% Vitamin A, 0% Vitamin C, 3% calcium, 3% iron   (if you change the ingredients the nutrition count changes)

 If you enjoy baking by your self or if you decide to invite the kids to join in make sure you fully appreciate the memories you are creating for your famlies.

Now have fun eating cookies!!

Reneca and Kalisha


Is chivalry dead?

What ever happened to chivalry?  When did it become okay for men to look out only for themselves?  Yesterday, in the middle of making our pinwheels my mom called for help with her flat tire.  I packed all three kids up and headed to her.  The tire was so flat that driving to put more air in it is out of the question.  The only option is to change it.  I jacked the car up, took off the lug nuts and the tire, put the new tire on, and tightened up the lug nuts.  (Through this whole deal its about 90 degrees!) I’m sweating like I just ran a marathon, DJ’s crying and the girls are going ballistic in the heat, when finally a young man asked us if we could use any assistance.  By this time we were done, so all I could say was “no, but thank you”.  I really wanted to say was ‘Thanks for being the only man out of about 10 who drove or walked right passed a grandmother, 2 kids, a baby and a mother changing a tire in the middle of an Albertson’s parking lot.’ 

Okay, I do know how to change a tire, and we weren’t in the middle of know where; so we weren’t in any real danger. However, a generation or two ago men (suit and all) would have loved to come rescue a woman and her kids.  When did chilvery die?  Thats my question.  After thinking on it for awhile one word kept popping in my head.  FEMINISM.  Don’t get me wrong, the feminist movement has given woman so many  great advances.  We are able to do pretty much what ever we want.  But this I can do everything, don’t need the help of a man attitude, has left  me with an aching back.

My back is not the only thing that has suffered because of this feminist attitude.  Many woman prance around like they do not need a man, and guess what, their men leave them.  (Who would really want to stay where they are not needed.) So now you have tons of women raising their children by themselves, only to start the cylce again when their sons do the same as their fathers. There are men who are just jerks, and would be jerks no matter how a woman treated him.  But, there are lots of men who want to take care and protect a woman.  I guess the real question isn’t where chivalry went; but why will we not let men take care of us? Really think about it, when was the last time you let your husband do something for you? Like take out the trash, or open the pickle jar.  I know you can do yourself but men need to feel like they are needed to. 

Kalisha and I have read a great book that touches on this point. The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by    Dr. Laura Schlessinger.  If you have a chance you should really buy it or check it out at the library. 

Take care of yourself, your husbands and your children.

Much love, Reneca

How to cure the “Frump Syndrome”

We are both reading the book “The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands” by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. She talks about the “Frump Syndrome” that we fall into after marriage and especially after children. Dr. Laura lists the symptoms as “wearing flannel pajamas and socks, or sweatpants with oversized T-shirts, to bed instead of some girly thing with lace; not shaving legs or grooming nails; not washing, styling, or even combing hair; taking off (instead of freshening up) makeup from the day just before your husband comes home; using the toilet with him in the room; not making an attempt to smell sweet; and never putting on sexy outfits…in front of your husband.”

Both Reneca and I have fallen into the “Frump Syndrome”, but just taking a little extra effort on our parts has helped to start to cure our “syndrome.” Dr. Laura says that “looking womanly and behaving sweetly and flirtatiously are gifts wives give to their husbands. This gifts communicates to the husband that his is seen as a man and not just a fix-it guy, bread winner or sperm donor.” Men are easy and if we want them to help around the house or be under our control, then be the “girl” that he fell in love with.

Raising kids, taking care of the house, running errands and driving carpools are all time consuming, but taking a few extra minutes in the morning and night can help you to come out of the frumpiness and be the woman you were before kids.

In the morning:

5 minute face; that should be all it takes to look fresh and natural. We still want to be beautiful, but not like a night walker 🙂 This is what we do…

  • Wash face and brush teeth
  • Apply tinted moisturizer or foundation, lip gloss and mascara
  • Spritz a little body spray or light perfume

That’s it–you are ready for the day. Just don’t forget the other essentials like lotion and deodorant 🙂

Now before your husband comes home for the day try to freshen up Touch up your face, more lip gloss and a little sweet smelling spray. Also, change into a spit up and booger free shirt. Just doing this will help you as well as please your husband. Dr. Laura quotes one man saying that “guys have a natural and deep desire to be with a woman who cares enough about herself to look good for her mate.” When we look good–we feel good, no matter what anyone wants to say.

Before bed (usually after the kids are put to bed) take a shower and put on something, not frumpy, that your husband enjoys seeing you in. Guys like different things, so maybe ask him if you don’t know anymore. Or just walk around in panties and a shirt. Just taking the extra effort even if you are exhausted will have big payoffs to your advantage. When they see you making an effort to look good for them they will be more willing to do things to make you happy.

As we grow in our Motherhood we have to keep in mind that we were lovers first and to not forget about the needs of our spouses. Have a great weekend and feel free to comment or ask us questions. We also love this book so go and check it out from the library or buy your own!

Kalisha and Reneca

Tell Me Why

So, both of our mornings started way too early! It’s hard sometimes as a Mom to remain nice and pleasant at all times. Taking some time to lounge and sip your coffee or tea slowly is the key! We wrote some “tell me why’s” to hopefully give you a chuckle. Happy Friday!


  • Tell me why as moms we have the ability to multitask: cooking dinner, and cleaning all the while holding a baby on our hip. Ask our husbands to accomplish this feat and you’ll have total chaos.
  • Tell me why your kids can be happily playing by themselves, Daddy joins in.   After playing Daddy  says “Here take the baby”… Did I miss something, I wasn’t holding the baby before you started playing with them!
  • Tell me why having your baby really makes you remember to take your birth control…and maybe one more for luck!
  • Tell me why my 4 year old thinks she’s a famous shoe designer, cutting the strap of my Minolo Blanikas sling backs!
  • Tell me why the longest distance between two points is you, your two year old and the park.
  • Tell me why when you think you having a peaceful quite moment while the kids are playing, you check on the kids only to find a big mess.
  • Tell me why my husbands one mission in life is to get the kids riled up and then leave!
  • Tell me why ever since my two year old learned to undress herself my house has been turned into a nudist camp
  • Tell me why my husbands idea of cooking is buying pre-cooked food from the Whole Foods buffet
  • Tell me why no one told me that after I had pushed my baby out I needed to call and get them on the waiting list for preschool!

Bringing Sexy Back

Put on a pair of sexy panties today! Just wearing them will automatically bring your sexy back!

Men are our 1st babies

I feel like I had a breakthrough or something. I don’t know, but it is funny and made me a little sad. I wrote some notes to Brett and one was by the bed and it said “Let’s Spoon!” I thought I was just being silly, but he was serious and really wanted to just spoon.  I hadn’t really realized until that moment that  I have been neglecting my first baby! That moment made me really see that through my busy day and sometimes nights with the girls, Brett is the one who gets left out. In many ways men are like our babies. We just have to realize that before our kids we had our spouse and long after the kids are grown and starting their own lives, we will still have our spouse. So, its not good to put all your efforts into just your kids and neglect your husband. Maybe I’m the only one, but either way I will try each day to give him the love and affection he deserves even through groggy mornings and exhausted nights.

Ways Men are like our Babies

  • Babies like to breastfeed and so do men!
  • I find myself always cleaning up toys and sippy cups. Also, ipods,hats and sunglasses
  • Babies want to be held; Men want to be held
  • Gotta clean dirty diapers and gotta clean dirty underwear!